How to Get a Date Before Valentine’s Day

by Jordan Harbinger

While it tends to be more of a girlie holiday, you’re no less of a man because you want something to do on Valentine’s Day. In fact, single dudes tend to be the most bummed about being single on Valentine’s Day as compared to any other*. If you’re looking to score a date by V-Day, the good news is you still have time.

Turn Up The Heat

You probably have a lot of single female friends sitting around whining about how they don’t have anything to do for Valentine’s Day. At least one of them has to be attractive. Don’t write off your lady friends, as the best relationships often start with a rock solid friendship. Come on, dude, you know you’ve thought about touching her boobs at least once. Just casually ask “are you doing anything for V-Day?” Resist the temptation to make a cheesedick joke -something along the lines of “har har we’re on a date” -just see where the night takes you.

Go To A Singles’ Night

Valentine’s Day is the best time for single dudes to get their speed-date on. Go with a bro and you two can compare notes or talk smack as the case may be when the night is over. You might even find someone to hook up with, or you can just have an experience to remember for the rest of your life. Speed-dating is surprisingly effective and inexpensive to boot. If worse comes to worse, you’re out less than 40 bucks and have a cool story to tell your friends.

Bring Your “A” Game

One surprisingly easy way to get a date before Valentine’s Day is simply to bring your “A” game to every interaction you have with a woman between now and then. Remember above how we said that V-Day is mostly a chick’s holiday? Do you have any idea how desperate some of these women are to find someone — anyone — to be with on Valentine’s Day? You really don’t…no, seriously. You don’t -even if you think you do. All you need to be is your usual charming self to the Nth degree and you’re ready to land a date for Valentine’s Day without a whole lot of effort.

Ask Around

Talk to your friends. See if they know any girls who won’t shut up about how they can’t find a date for Valentine’s Day. After dating your friends, dating friends of friends is about the best thing that you can do. You know they aren’t crazy (or at least, not crazy enough to scare away your friends -provided you trust THEIR judgment). It’s like a built-in character reference. You might want to be a touch discreet about this, as nothing turns ladies off more than desperation, but have a quick aside with your best friends and see if they can’t give you any leads.

Use The Internet

Get on the Internet, dude. Dating sites like OKCupid are basically meat markets and even the more upscale ones like have tons of lovely ladies looking for someone to kill the night with. Here’s a tip: They’re there because they’re single and ready to mingle. This doesn’t have to be a last resort — there’re a lot of fine women on these sites — but if all else fails, you should be able to get a date from one of these sites unless your profile makes you look like a complete douchebag.

Valentine’s Day

If you don’t end up getting a short-notice date on Valentine’s Day, don’t sweat it. Just get a bunch of the bros together and go out on the pull. You might not be able to get a date for the night, but you might have someone to make breakfast for in the morning.


*This statistic is completely fabricated and there is no evidence to support it whatsoever.


Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company. If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm team, then visit You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook.

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