Men We Admire: James Michael Sama

James Michael Sama is a writer, blogger, social media marketer, and on air/live event host based in Boston, Massachusetts.

Much of James’ time is spent with his family and girlfriend. Other passions of his are acting (seen in feature films, commercials & TV) writing, traveling, studying people and relationships, racing (cars), staying fit, and enjoying life.

James aspires to lead the “New Chivalry Movement,” an idea that promotes healthy relationships and mutual respect between partners. He hopes to one day bring these messages to large scale media.


Name: James Michael Sama

Age: 28

Occupation: Social Media Marketing/Writer/Host

Relationship status: In a relationship

For How Long? Just celebrated one year.

How many kids do you have? Zero!

Pets: Our family has an English Lab named Logan, he is awesome.

Cars: Audi S5 and a BMW 335i.

Gadgets: The usual, Samsung Galaxy, Toshiba laptop, nothing too fancy

Sports: Former varsity wrestler and volunteer coach, football, and former instructor of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Shotokan karate, kickboxing, and boxing.

How did you get started on your current career/lifestyle path?

I’m still figuring out exactly what that path is. I was fortunate to work with a company for a short while that gave me on-camera and live event hosting opportunities and fell in love with doing that, so I have been trying to channel my blog exposure and ideas into a profession in that area.

Did you have any mentors who helped steer you on this path?

champ1As cheesy as it sounds, Neil Strauss, author of “The Game” (No, I’m not a pickup artist) changed the way I looked at the world and relationships. My parents have been much of my inspiration for the actual content of my writing, because I’ve learned a lot from them.

How has your work contributed to a) your development as a person and/or b) the lives of others?

In this context, referring to my work as my writing, it has helped me to put my thoughts about what a good man is, into words. It has done the same for solid, healthy relationships. So, I have literally written my own outline of the person I want to be, and it gives me a benchmark to strive for daily.

Additionally, I have had countless people email and message me about how much my writing has helped them. Anything from their own self-confidence to realizing that the relationship they are currently in, isn’t what they want or deserve. And, they have pledged to change. That, to me, is a great feeling.

If you had one piece of advice for someone just entering your field, what would it be?

Persistence. It’s difficult to stand out and get noticed in any field these days, but if you are genuine, produce good content, and do it often – eventually the right person or people will see it.

Do you have a personal work philosophy?

Get shit done. Can I say that on here? [yup ~ ed.]

What do you do for fun?

Traveling, spending time with my girlfriend and family, driving, writing, and hopefully someday soon, “work” will be added to this list. As the saying goes “if you choose to do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life.”

What motivates or inspires you?

JMS HeadshotMy family, my girlfriend and the people around me. To get personal for a moment, my girlfriend has just completed her chemo treatment and is winning the battle against breast cancer. To have witnessed her poise and grace through the whole process is indescribably inspiring.

Also, the things that I want for my future and my future family, keep me going. I have never been satisfied with average and will do whatever it takes to stay out of that classification, both personally and professionally.

What has been your greatest achievement?

I had a speaking role in a Boston based film which aired in the theaters, and that was a big goal of mine for a long time. But, I’m still searching for that huge, unforgettable moment to create.

On a different plane, each time someone tells me I’ve helped improve their life through my writing or speaking, that’s a huge achievement for me.

What is the one thing you hope to achieve?

I want to change what our future generations see as a healthy relationship. I want people to hold higher standards for themselves, stop mistreating others and stop accepting mistreatment from others. I believe this shift in personal relationships can change many other aspects of life.

What is your super power?

The gifts of empathy, patience, and understanding.

Who’s your hero?

I have many in different aspects of life. Of course, my dad, who has taught me how to be the type of man I can only someday hope to become.

What are you reading (or watching) these days?

life9How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins, and of course the medieval genius of Game of Thrones and Vikings. Oh, and I’m addicted to “Suits” on USA. I want to be Harvey Specter when I grow up.

Insert any piece of advice, anecdote, villain story, funny story, joke, recipe or life lesson you’d like to share with our readers.

On the subject of being a gentleman – A true gentleman will show respect to everyone around him. He will not be condescending or put anyone down, regardless of intelligence level or professional position. As the saying goes ‘a man of quality is not afraid of equality.’ A gentleman is chivalrous, but not just towards women – towards everyone.

Thinking back to a time when you had to make a hard choice, how did you decide, and do you feel, in retrospect, that you made the right move?

champ1When my girlfriend was diagnosed with breast cancer, we had only been together a few months. I had to make the decision of staying with her and fighting the battle together, or going our separate ways. I chose to stay, and would never have done it any other way.

If you had it all to do over again, would you change anything? I probably would have gotten a “real job” right out of college instead of trying to start my own businesses. It knocked me back a couple of years in financial progress and independence. Oh, and on the same note, I probably wouldn’t have spent so much damn money on modifying cars. Depreciating assets suck in the long term.

What’s next for you? What’s your next big idea, project etc.?

I am looking to build as much exposure and momentum as I can so I can start a speaking tour or spread my ideas on television. I want the message of positive, healthy, respectful relationships to permeate the population and to truly change peoples’ thinking. Also, to release a book by the end of 2014.

What one piece of advice would you give to your own son (hypothetical or otherwise) in the hope of making him a better man?

The golden rule – Treat others the way you want to be treated.

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