by Wanda Lam
The wedding vow is the promise the bride and the groom make to each other during the wedding ceremony. A wedding without vows is an unfamiliar sight.
Wedding vows are essential in any marriage ceremony. Nowadays, modern wedding ceremonies offer the flexibility of allowing you to write and say your own vows.
If you decide to write your own personally meaningful wedding vows, then here are a few things to keep in mind.
1. When you write your own vows, you naturally start to think of all the good reasons why you want to be with the person you are going to marry. Writing your own vows makes the words you say more natural and from the heart.
2. If you don’t know what to say, or you don’t know how to start it, or you just want to add a few additional thoughts, then you can get ideas by reading books on the topic or performing a search on the web for free wedding vows.
You can look at a few of the sample wedding vows online and borrow some ideas or words from each to add to your own unique vows. You can also try taking a particular sample and just changing a few words to suit you. You can also take a wedding vow you really like and use it as is.
3. If you want a touch of artistic expression to your vows, try adding a few lines of poetry from the popular works by Gibran, Keats or Browning.
4. You may want to include some of the lyrics from your favorite song. Couple’s often have a song or tune that symbolizes their love for each other, sort of like the song that is danced to during the reception or after the wedding dinner.
5. While you are thinking about what to say in your vows, you may consider your lifestyles, your personalities and your interests.
7. Share with each other what you have written. You both can bounce back ideas; revive special moments you had with each other. This will help you discover what to include in your vows.
Make sure you let the Officiate or person who will be marring you know ahead of time that you are writing your own vows. He or she can inform you about what must be included and may provide a few pointers.
One final thought. Saying your wedding vows during the ceremony can be frightening. You may be scared that you might mess up. Well don’t be. It’s okay to stumble a bit. You will be able to correct yourself. Know that writing your own vows and practicing a bit will help you both gain the confidence you need to do well.